Let's Talk Oral...

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I was sitting in the gym last night (the gym being my front room/lounge) on my bench halfway through a crazy set and my mind, like it does sometimes, wandered onto thoughts of naked bodies and orgasms.

Over the years many of my 'guy' friends have without prompting conveyed that they love getting 'head', the BJ, the replacement water slide - but not as many admit (and I use the word 'admit' on purpose) to giving head back to their partners/girlfriends yet, all of these guys state they "LOVE PUSSY".

I can go on record... Please quote me... Share, copy and paste or like this post... Tell all your friends I said: If a man truly loves pussy, he be eating that pussy too!

It's not rocket science or divine physics! Why would a woman consciously give head and never get any back, not even a little bit? Hell, ladies get yours. I am giving you the right to 'not' get on your knees unless you're being met at the table with an equal share of tongue action. 

Now, before certain people go off screaming that I'm condoning random fellatio, what I'm trying to emphasize is, if you're with someone you love/trust and it's monogamous and totally comfortable; then there's no reason why you can't explore the depths or heights of each other.

Hey, it's your choice to have a one-night-stand and dine out on someone you barely know - I personally wouldn't but who am I to dictate the intricacies of a lustful scenario.

Something else I've noticed too. Since writing erotic fiction last week on my other site, I've opened a can of worms I forgot existed. As I think of new material to write, my thoughts often get a bit sordid. I think it's best if I write some teen fiction to balance this out, too much of one thing isn't necessarily good.

But like I alluded to earlier boys and girls... There's nothing wrong with making your partner feel good, especially if they frequently return the favour. 

In the immortal words of Robert Kelly:

"Baby take off your clothes and come on, turn out the lights coz girl it's on, now that we are all alone, I want you to..."

Women ...and making the first move...

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I've listened to a lot of 'How we met' stories over the years and one common theme within many is the fact that the girl isn't the one that notices the guy, and more often she didn't actually like him at first.

D'you see? That simply tells me that guy was super persistent and possibly wore that woman down until she submitted defeat and said yes to a drink/date/coffee.

The realisation led me to engage a few female work colleagues on the topic and; 95% said that its traditional for the man to make the first move, they also mentioned they may not particularly like the guy or his advances, but it's the ‘done’ thing! Why change a habit of a lifetime?

Something else that crept out of the discussion was, “Men thinking we’re up for anything straightaway because we instigated the initial attraction.” Okay, I can understand that particular argument, some guys can lack a ‘self-control’ button, but for guys like me who think they are quite mature and can easily navigate engaging with a woman who goes after what she wants, we don’t often see those brilliant individuals because they may have noticed us but go into ‘second-guess-myself’ mode and we pass each other by without a word.

Armed with the revelation sure to send me on a pathway laden with success and rejection I couldn't help wondering why women feel it's not their responsibility to make the first move. My answer came from a number of female sources in various forms and guises, but the one that stuck with me was: "Men are supposed to be the hunters, it's what y'all do!"

I can't really hide behind the excuse that I'm busy anymore, or I have too much going on to get involved with anyone. That ship has upped anchor. I am still swamped but I can make time (something I haven't been willing to do lately).

My problem isn't an inability to make a move albeit the first one, I just find women who make that move are extremely sexy. Confident women really, really, really turn me on!

The next few days/night are laden with lunches, nights out, drinks and socialising, so we'll see what happens... 

I think Monica captures the essence of this evenings thought-ramblings: